Renew Your Thinking

Do you ever feel like you can’t escape from anxiety? Like you’re at war with your mind and are captive to your thoughts? 

Often when dealing with mental health we look for a simple solution. Maybe a small piece of advice, a quote, one changed habit, or a revelation we hope will get us out of “the funk.” However, true relief will only come when taking a multifaceted approach. 

Understand that coping looks different for everybody.

When I started my journey, I was just 13 years old. My family and I decided on the route of medications and therapy. Combining the two would set the framework for years to come. 

What I discovered from personal experience was that medications merely placed a bandage on the wounds. I was only prolonging the inevitable confrontation with my past, becoming increasingly numb to my childhood rather than facing it head-on. The therapy sessions proved to do more harm than good as well. I would fixate on my past until I defined myself by the very thing I was trying to heal from. 

If elements of trauma are replayed again and again, the accompanying stress hormones engrave those memories ever more deeply in the mind. Ordinary, day to day events become less and less compelling. Not being able to deeply take in what is going on around them makes it impossible to feel fully alive. Not being fully alive in the present keeps them more firmly imprisoned in the past.

“The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.

It’s taken years of trial and error to recognize the ineffectiveness of these two techniques in my life.

You will not experience an overnight fix.

The process is long and continuously changing, so be patient and gracious with yourself, but more importantly, listen to your body.

As of last year, I had still not found a regiment that proved to be effective. When considering different treatment options in coping with your anxiety you must understand that it is not going to be a one size fits all. What works for me may not work for you and vise versa.

What I have found to be most effective in coping with anxiety involves several methods working simultaneously. My daily routine typically starts with a cup of coffee, giving my mind and body time to wake up. Some mornings I may open with scripture, others I may read from a book. It just depends on how my mind is feeling. From there I try to get at least one bottle of water in and some breakfast. A light meal, maybe a piece of toast, fruit, or a few scrambled eggs. 

Once I’ve fed my body and soul with the good, I can then begin my day by expressing a few things that I am grateful for. I may start by completing a workout at the gym, getting my blood flowing and releasing endorphins. Or perhaps I begin my writing and creative content. I really listen to my body in making these decisions. Every day looks a little different depending on my current needs. 

There are a few things however that never change and that have offered the best relief;

  • Music – The best therapy I have ever found has been in the form of music.
  • A good night’s rest – Never underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep. Some studies show a direct link between sleeping and mental health. So take this one seriously!
  • Pouring into others – I get no greater fulfillment in life than when I’m helping others. But, I have also realized that to pour into others I must first pour into myself. 

A more recent addition has been hot yoga. I always thought the concept of yoga was a bit laid back for me, however, that was exactly what I needed. Getting my mind in touch with my body, focusing on my movements, balance, strength, and breathing. I feel present in the moment and at peace with myself.

Now that you know what I do to battle my anxiety, here are some simple questions to ask yourself to better identify what your mind and body may be needing.

First, ask how you’re feeling. Not what you feel, but how you feel. 

Take inventory of your body’s basic housekeeping.

How’s your breathing as you read this? Shallow and quick or deep and even?

Is your mind feeling restless? 

Are you eating foods that make you feel good?

Are you drinking your daily intake of water? 

Getting enough sleep? 

You must first answer these questions. Then, once you’ve listed your answers, see about making simple changes to better your responses. Start small and then build up. We are so quick to find total solutions. I’ve been there, but we must not underestimate the power of minor changes and their effectiveness. 

Reflect and Adapt

Once you’ve had this internal conversation, ask what it is that’s causing most of your anxiety? What is the theme? Is it stemming from intrusive thoughts, uncertainty, past mistakes, etc? You must confront these things head-on. 

If it’s intrusive thoughts ask yourself, how much validity does it have? Maybe you think you’re a bad person, untrustworthy, etc. Ask why you feel this way. Is there anything to back up the claims? If not, choose to let the thoughts go. Imagine letting them continue without you. 

If your anxiety is rooted in uncertainty you must first accept that there are only two things you can control in life, your attitude and your effort. Everything else is up to the powers that be. I know how frustrating this is, but you must come to terms with that. Do not let the uncertainty of tomorrow prevent you from living your today. 

If past mistakes are at the center of your anxiety you must first confront them. I know it’s scary and I know it’s not what you want to hear but to fully heal from past mistakes you must first take ownership. Once you’ve done that, you can then begin the process of forgiving. Know that we all make mistakes and that you are human. It is okay to have errors in judgment, that’s where the growth takes place. Know that those mistakes can propel you forward if you allow them to. Only you can choose.

When we begin to realize how much power we have over our thoughts, we can better combat ourselves in controlling the dialog. Discipline your thoughts and experiment with an array of techniques in coping. Don’t limit yourself to just one.

To anyone trying to find their way right now, feeling like they can’t escape the mental marathon, know that it does get better with time. You will learn what works and what doesn’t. Again, be patient and surround yourself with people who will lift you. Whatever you do, don’t let your anxiety rob you of your greatest potential. You do have something to offer, your passions weren’t placed by accident, and there is hope on the other side. Just remain patient and trust in the process.

Mental Illness: Why Aren’t We Talking About It?

One in five adults have a mental health condition. Let that sink in. That’s over 40 million Americans, and the number is steadily rising. While the mainstream media loves to undermine America’s mental health crisis to further their anti-gun agenda, the facts are hard to dismiss.

3.JPGThe United States has a serious problem, with a serious workforce shortage that further exacerbates the issue.

In the paragraphs following I will shed light on my key findings through research of Psychology Today, The National Institute of Mental Health, Mental Health America and more. Having experienced and battled with mental illness myself, this study hits close to home. My hopes in publishing my work is to shed light on the ever-growing problem, discuss potential solutions, and walk away feeling enlightened and determined to be the means to an end needed to better combat the rise seen in mental illnesses in America.


Of the 43 million, nearly 56% do not receive treatment. Not including the 76% of youth who are left with little to no sufficient treatment and care options.

That’s more than the populations of New York and Florida combined. 

Before we dig too far into this pandemic, let us first define what I mean when I say “mental illness.”

Mental Illness, as defined by the American Psychiatric Association, is a health condition involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associate with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities. Further, the illness does not discriminate; it can affect anyone regardless of age, gender, social status, race, etc. While is can affect anyone at any time, most cases are identified by age 24.

Common symptoms include but are not limited to prolonged depression, feelings of extreme highs and lows, excessive fears, worries and anxieties, social withdrawal, strong feelings of anger, a growing inability to cope with daily problems and activities, suicidal thoughts, and more. With over 200 classifications, such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc. its toll affects each and every one of us in some capacity whether it be direct or inadvertent.


Despite its scope and severity rising in the millions, we have still yet to see commensurate visibility, policy reform, research, or funding on a local and federal level.

So what should we do? Can we even help? Well, the first thing to know is that there is hope for those battling mental illness. Between seeking psychological treatment methods and utilizing medications, even the most complex cases can see major changes in just a few short months.

On the flip side of this I want to write a disclaimer. Just speaking from personal experience. Seeking out a psychologist can prove to be immensely beneficial for not only you, but for your loved ones and families who provide your support network as well. However, it is common to get comfortable living in the anxiety and emotions of what you’re battling. Often times seeking a psychologist can provide short-lived relief, but can also make the healing process even more drawn out.

From my own experiences I know that there came a time where I was so comfortable in feeling miserable for myself that I let it take over me. It seeped into every aspect of my life. Every time I would speak with my counselor I would live in the past. I’d fixate on things and develop compulsive thoughts. There came a point where I had to just part ways with the process, accept how far I had come, and move on! Luckily my family was able to snap me out of the funk I was in. They said,

“Amanda, sometimes you act like you’re the only one going through anything. Everyone battles their own demons. But the longer you let it control your happiness, the less time you have to live your life.”

Which brings me to my next point… surround yourself by family and friends.

One of the biggest lies you can tell yourself is that you are alone in this. Let me just tell you, you are not! The more you surround yourself by those who will remind you of this, the better you’ll feel. Now all that to say, we must find a more comprehensive solution at every level.

On a Federal level, the government plays a major role in regulating systems and providers relating to mental health in America. They also set the tone in terms of the quality of care given.  In other words, the federal government ultimately provides the oversight across the states. They also controls the protection of rights given to individuals with mental health disorders, as well as the sustained funding and ongoing research. Here is where I feel we can expand the most in terms of monetary changes as well as raising awareness.


While the government does provide a major funding stream, including a match of Medicaid (single largest funder of mental health services in the country), we are still facing a startling shortage in qualified workforce professionals. Alongside a shortage of providers, we’ve seen a lack of accountability in diagnosing and treating children from an early age, often times missing the crucial onset of symptoms. Lastly, while we are constantly gaining insights into the mind and it’s complexities, there is still a lot to learn. Funding research must be put on the forefront of any political campaign, rather that be at the local or national level. Which means we, as a society, must hold our world leaders accountable!

If you feel called to raise awareness and make a difference, click here to maintain your voice in the federal decision-making processes on mental health! Or, let your money do the talking and donate to Mental Health America for research and treatment solutions.

If you or a loved one you know are struggling, please call or click the

“Get Immediate Help” link to find out more.

There is so much more to this life than what you’re feeling right now. I promise you things will get better and know I’m always here if you need someone to talk to.

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